I thought I knew grief. I’ve lost so many people in my life, one of the joys of a big family is having a lot of people to love, and one of the worst parts is having a lot of people to lose. I thought my heart shattered when Max died. I didn’t think I’d ever recover when my mother died. Bear held me together through those, and so many others.
There is no one to hold me together now. My friends are trying. I am blessed in so many ways.
Last night I prayed as I was driving home with Maverick, I prayed that I had been enough for my Bear, that I had loved him enough, cherished him enough, through all the years
There’s a billboard on that route that changes pictures periodically, you know the kind I mean. As we approached it, it turned totally blue – Bear’s favorite color – and words appeared in white. It said “You are enough.”
Thank you. I don’t know what more to say, just thank you.
Tonight is his service. I don’t know if I can make it through but I will give it my best. And then a new life begins. One I don’t know how to navigate, one I don’t want to live. But with God’s grace, I’ll make it the best I can.
Suziecreamcheese Sings the Blues 
I know saying I’m so sorry does not ease the pain.
What a wonderful sign that you are enough. God does listen.
Sending love, prayers, and peace to you.
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You’re stronger than you realize.
God, your family, all of us, we’re all here for you. 😭 💔
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(((HUG)))
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My friend, I mourn with you in Bear’s passing. My heart is saddened not only by his loss, but because I know something of the difficult journey of sorrow and grief that now lies before you as you begin to rebuild life without his presence beside you.
At times like these, so many words of comfort are offered, yet they always seem inadequate. Only you truly know the depth of the loss of your beloved partner.
Still, I hope you know that you are not alone. Your friends here care deeply for you, and you will not be forgotten among all of us whose lives you have touched over the years.
I wish you peace today, and strength and gentleness for the difficult days ahead.❤ Tom
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Thank you. I know you’ve traveled this road too.
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The grief will hit like waves knocking you off your feet for a little bit, then the waves are smaller, but they will come again, eventually there is more time between the big waves of grief. I still have them after my youngest son’s death, but I have learned how to navigate them, still hurts and I still cry but I know it’s a shorter time then I will be ok for a while. A good cry helps, the stress hormones are released from your body in the tears and then you will feel better for a while. I was single when I lost my son and trying to be strong for my other children I did pretty well not crying until a friend hugged me and the tears started (I hate crying in front of other). I told her she hugged the tears out of me. I found crying in a warm shower helped release the stress too. I’m glad Heavenly Father gave you some comfort to know you haver been everything Bear needed. What joy when we are reunited again but until then do your best to heal, rely on our Heavenly Father for comfort, it can be hard to feel it when we feel like we are in chaos, so take time to breath and pray and even cry, so you can feel the spirit whispering peace and the Saviors love for you. You will stay in my prayers.
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Thank you. I cry easily, so breaking down in public is not something I’ve never done before – people look at you funny but I’m also used to that. I so appreciate your kind words and your prayers, I feel like I’m wrapped in cotton a lot of the time – a warm quilt of love and friendship.
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Grieving, no matter how many times we ‘practice’ it, never gets any easier. I am saddened for you from Bear’s passing, and know from experience that this road you have been set upon will be marked with incredible bouts of sadness through its stages. I also believe that you are, indeed, enough, and that Bear is watching over you already to protect you and hold you. As is God.
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Thank you. Today’s sign was a song on Facebook, played by a friend who had no idea of the significance.
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So Sorry
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