Back in May, a “friend” accused me of being a bully. She did this in a public forum, then locked me out – effectively cutting off any chance of me defending myself. For the record, I did NOT bully this woman. EVER. I was endlessly amused by her self importance, but I did NOT bully her. EVER.
I’m having a very hard time letting this go. We have friends in common. None of them stepped up and defended me. I think that bothers me almost as much as her accusing me – that no one said that she was wrong, that she should stop, that SHE was the bully.
We’ll be returning to work soon and I find myself on one hand hoping I run into her, and on the other hand praying I don’t. I’ve been badly hurt by all this. I was not the popular kid in school, I was the one who never got chosen for teams, who was teased because of my clothes, my bad teeth, my parents’ lack of education, etc. I was not a pretty child, at least not according to my classmates. I had only brains going for me, and being a smart girl wasn’t the best thing to be when I was growing up. I know bullying. It isn’t something I would do to anyone. Gentle fun poked, yes, but not ever anything hurtful. It isn’t in me to be intentionally hurtful without great provocation.
I want one thing from her. I want an apology, in the same forum in which she accused me. And then I never want to see her face again.